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Jennifer [Member] in response to: On Becoming BabyWISE? Our Ezzo Story

Jennifer [Member] — Tue, 25 Apr 2006 03:26:37 +0000

AH,

Thanks for dropping by and sharing your thoughts. If you are struggling with Babywise I really, really encourage you to keep doing your research. If you haven't been to ezzo.info and tulipgirl.com, I encourage you to do so - you'll find a lot of great info.

I think one of the problems many parents have had with the ezzo materials is the conflicting information. You are right, he does say to feed the baby when it's hungry, HOWEVER, he also spends a lot of time warning parents not to let the baby manipulate them. He doesn't hold "mother's intuition" in very high regard. These are the types of things that are confusing to many Babywise users. I believe that's one of the elements that leads to so many of the heartbreaking stories that we hear of.

I'll leave you with this thought: in the news interview there was a wonderful ped. that cautioned parents against Babywise. He likened it to putting your baby on the dashboard of your car - many babies may very well survive and some may even thrive - but it's dangerous so why take the risk?

Jenn

AH [Visitor] in response to: On Becoming BabyWISE? Our Ezzo Story

AH [Visitor] — Tue, 25 Apr 2006 03:11:25 +0000

I'm struggling to use Babywise, but I know MANY parents who used it easily and harmlessly and their babies sleep through the night, are very happy kids, developmentally sound and normal, and their parent's have calm lives. I know this doesn't work for everyone, and as I said, it's hard for me; but it DOES work for many people. Also, one thing that critical people say about the book that is not true is that Ezzo encourages a "strict" schedule. That's not actually true. He says over and over "if your baby is hungry, FEED HIM." He never recommends not feeding your baby when they are hungry. This is a common misconception. Anyway, these are my thoughts.

heather Sykora [Visitor] in response to: On Becoming BabyWISE? Our Ezzo Story

heather Sykora [Visitor] — Thu, 19 May 2005 22:53:04 +0000

Thank you for telling your story. I also have a distressing and sad story with babywise and my second baby. It is hard to be honest and withstand others criticism. Thank you for doing so!!
Hopefully this will encourage and understanding of the importance of an infants life.

Heather

Valerie [Visitor] in response to: On Becoming BabyWISE? Our Ezzo Story

Valerie [Visitor] — Thu, 19 May 2005 08:58:43 +0000

Thanks so much for sharing your story.
As a new mom with a 12 week old, I understand how new mothers are bombarded with information, as I was.
I was encouraged to have a hospital birth (possible c section) but denied it & had my baby at home with a midwife and no medication.
After babies birth, I chose to let my son create his own schedule (which babies do easily) instead of trying to schedule him myself.
I feel that babies DO NEED A SCHEDULE but will easily and willing create them by themselves.
Every day I follow a set schedule, that my beautiful baby boy has set.
Is he the center of my universe? Yes.
Will he always be the center of my universe? No
If I imposed upon him a strict schedule, would he respond...doubtful.
Would I want him to? NO
If he wakes every 3 hours, he needs me.
Im gladly there for him.
I take each day, one day at a time.
I do not worry about if he will be spoiled when he is 3 yrs old.
I just want each moment with my child....now.
Whever im right or wrong, this is my child and I will go with my intuition.
My intuition doesn't allow me to let him"cry"

Jane [Visitor] in response to: On Becoming BabyWISE? Our Ezzo Story

Jane [Visitor] — Sun, 15 May 2005 03:55:52 +0000

Thanks for sharing your story! It was very encouraging to hear. I have lost friends over this as they strictly scheduled their babies and I didn't. I feel they were so "into" it that they thought I was being sinful for meeting my child's needs when he cried. I wouldn't argue with them about it, and I didn't tell them they were wrong, but they just couldn't get past the fact that I wouldn't see it as the only biblical way to raise a child. We homeschool and it has saddened me that this is becoming "the thing to do" in alot of homeschooling circles. God Bless you as you raise and enjoy your child.

Cheryl [Visitor] in response to: On Becoming BabyWISE? Our Ezzo Story

Cheryl [Visitor] — Tue, 10 May 2005 20:06:26 +0000

Thanks for your story. If you want positive encouragement concerning the importance of of the *need* for parents to be attached and attuned to their infants, I would suggest reading either _Scattered Minds_ or _When the Body Says No_, both by Dr. Gabor Mate. Dr. Mate is not a Christian, but he does a wonderful job in explaining the neurological development of infants and children and the importance of parents being attuned to their babies when they are little in order for them to properly develop -- something that Gary Ezzo never seemed to factor in, in his terror of being manipulated by a child.

BTW, I came here via Tulip Girl's blog, if that matters.

Clint [Visitor] in response to: On Becoming BabyWISE? Our Ezzo Story

Clint [Visitor] — Fri, 06 May 2005 06:12:34 +0000

I have a great deal of respect for you. To revist such a painful time for our benefit takes a great deal of courage. All the best.

Christine [Visitor] in response to: On Becoming BabyWISE? Our Ezzo Story

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